Personality matters

Your personality matter at every place you go or work. Very frequent problems comes when we have mismatch of personality in life. During the personality development program this is what we learned, how to manage people who are with you.

Are you an extrovert who manages an introvert or works with one? You may wonder why they don’t join your conversations more often, or you may have been asked to do so. What can you do to get the Introverts you work with to talk to you and other people, without trying to change them into Extraverts? Here are our top 10 suggestions.

1. ADDRESS THEM DIRECTLY: Introverts may be quiet, yet they have something to offer. It may not be worth their time to speak up. Ask a question by name. They may have been gathering the strength to weigh in and be appreciative for the opportunity. Avoid embarrassing them.

2. PREPARE THEM: Give an Introvert a heads up before asking them a question or having them engage in a group. They can then craft their words. You might even let them practice with you beforehand. Putting an introvert on the spot will make them shut down. If they know what to expect, they’ll talk to you more effectively.

3. START WITH SMALLER GROUPS: An introvert can give a prepared speech to a large group, but they prefer to speak spontaneously to a small group. Try including Introverts in small groups to get them used to being included. As they come to know those few others, this will let them join in. Then at least some of the newcomers will be familiar.

4. INVITE THEM TO LUNCH :Introverts like small groups and low-key conversations. If you’re a manager or extravert, invite an introverted coworker to lunch. Include one additional individual or just you two. Break the ice, learn about them, and help them feel more comfortable talking to you (and the other co-worker). What you discover may help you draw them out on themes they like.

5. DON’T MAKE IT TOO SOCIAL:The occasional lunch together may fine, but an invitation to an office party or drinks after work with “a number of us” may send your Introverted associate running. Introverts don’t like parties, crowds, or mixing work with “pleasure.” Keep interactions small and work-related.

6. LET THEM WRITE:Introverts prefer writing over conversing. Email them a question or ask them to write up some meeting or project notes to start the dialogue. You can also have them draft an agenda, group email, or other items to distribute as their “voice.”

7. PLAY TO THEIR STRENGTHS:Most introverts are keen observers, but they may also have other qualities. Introverted Thinking types are data-savvy, so you can ask them for statistics or research. Focusing on information rather than conversation will make them feel more comfortable. Introverted idealists are compassionate. They can help someone who needs emotional support, a listening ear, or kind and innovative solutions.

8. DISCOVER THEIR PASSIONS:Most introverts despise small talk but enjoy talking about something. Discovering their passions can improve workplace interactions, even if they’re unrelated. The Introvert you work with may share a pastime with a coworker who seems unrelated. They adore literature and can always find a suitable phrase, statistic, or thought for the work. Start with their interests.

9. ALLOW THEM TO OPT OUT:It may sound counterintuitive, but making participation optional may be more beneficial in the long run. Introverts require time to warm up and feel safe before speaking. Introverts dislike some meetings. If they feel pressured, they may resist and shun you. However, if you let them speak when they’re ready, they’ll likely participate sooner.

10. GIVE THEM A PARTNERINTR: overts enjoy solitude, yet they also enjoy socializing. They want closer relationships with fewer people. Try pairing them with a compatible coworker who’s a touch more outgoing but not so forceful. If you give them a presentation jointly, the introvert can listen and let the extravert talk when they need a break.


While this may seem like a lot of work, you might want to remember three things:

1.When you help introverts thrive, you’re merely returning their energy.

2.Introverts may not speak up, but they contribute. They’re probably doing it quietly.

3.If you help your introverted coworkers join the conversation, you may find they have vital contributions you never would have thought of.

Introverts and Extraverts who work together and try to understand each other can learn from each other’s abilities and embrace a style that seems weird at first.

This way both personalities will be able to enjoy what they do. In general life, communication gap can happen because of this reason and often people divert their paths instead of trying new things to mend their personality. 

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